Hey guys, we’re trapped in the house and you happened upon my blog. Welcome! You will also notice that I haven’t posted as much. I’m sorry about that, it is my sincerest apologies. I’ll try to get back to posting a few times a month. With all that said, let’s discuss Covid-19 Dating. We’re out here single, dating or otherwise and Miss Rona done thew a monkey wrench in our plans. In layman’s terms, Corona has shut down our lives as we know it and dating is one of those things. I have gotten only God knows how many offers to Quarantine and Chill via dating sites. I don’t know about anybody else, but you might as well have told me, let’s play Corona roulette. It’s like hooking up with a stranger, but instead of worrying about just catching gonorrhea or her any of her freaky friends; now we’ve added a serious airborne virus to the party. Just say you want to be STI ridden zombies infected by Covid and call it a day.
Miss Rona If You’re Nasty
Social distancing is affecting the possibility of finding the love of your life, or maybe just the lay of the night. If you are trying to be a responsible adult and stop the spread of the virus, that also means no going on dates or hooking up. You may even be throwing dollar bills at a stripper on your laptop right now. If it’s gotten that serious already, then God bless your little heart. I don’t know what you will do if you’re stuck home for a few weeks to months. We’re all out here just trying to make the best of a terrible situation. I’m here to give you some ideas on how just like work, you can date from home. Let’s not make this time any longer and drawn out by isolating ourselves any more than we need to. You could have one of those love stories that start off, “It all started with a virus and some toilet paper”. Then you’ll hold hands and stare into each other’s eyes as a montage plays before you. It doesn’t sound lovey-dovey, but it will be interesting at the least.
Snapchat Anyone?
This doesn’t sound sexy, but frankly, neither does catching or passing a virus. So, digital we go. Say you meet a nice person online and you want to talk to them face to face but in a casual way. You basically want the Starbucks dates of video chat. Well, this is where Snapchat and Instagram come in super handy. You get to confirm this person is who for the most part who they say they are. You don’t have to put the pressure of the continuous stream of conversation video chat may bring. You can just shoot them a video message in your casual wear and flirt a little. Although, picking out an outfit and putting yourself together may help pass the time. There is no added pressure of having to respond back rapidly. There is also the bonus of getting a general gauge of your chemistry as a couple.
Let’s Skype It!
If your video messages go well, then how about taking things up a notch? Let’s go for the full-blown video date. Let’s make it interesting, shall we? Instead of just a formal chat, how about we make it an actual coffee date. Or even, you can both agree on a meal item and each prepares it on camera while you chat. If just sitting for a set amount of time and having long convos on the chat is your thing, then have at it. However, grabbing a glass of wine over dinner or dessert sounds a lot more interesting. Just because you’re quarantined doesn’t mean you can’t be romantic, spontaneous or even imaginative. Maybe you can’t go to the park and have a picnic, but you can take your camera to your balcony and set up a blanket and lunch. Maybe show your date a little of what you see outdoors. If you’re only good at making Ramen noodles, show your date how you prepare yours. The possibilities are endless, and it could lead to some interesting conversations outside of the norm.
Netflix Date at 3pm, Your time?
I’ve done this one a few times and it was GREAT! I’m sure a few of you have even watched a movie with friends with apps like Watch2gether, Rabbit and Netflix Party. If you aren’t tech-savvy it’s going to take some planning but you can make it happen. Just find the movie that you both want to watch and press play at the same time. I’ve done this with dates who didn’t speak the same first language as me and it worked perfectly. We found movie titles that were available in both languages and pressed play at the same time. We were able to talk a little about what we would do differently in various situations. It was also good to talk about what we liked and didn’t like about the movie. It will surprise you what you can learn about someone just by sharing a meal or a movie. Gone are the days where dating only by video chat is weird. It’s no longer a luxury we can afford. We are now officially in a time where dating before ever being in the same room is a thing. I just hope these ideas will help pass the time while you’re under lockdown. Happy dating everyone!
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learned somethings about blogging, running a site and the direction in which the blog is going. So far I have seen a little increase in dedicated readership. Which is what I would like. I want the reader who will stay with us through the journey. The passive readers are great too. I’m confident in the content that I create on this site, and I am sure once a member of our target audience experiences the world of M.I.P they will stick around for good.
and I would still like to keep that as a topic that we visit. However, I really would like to focus on the overall theme that black women and other women of color are non-monolithic. We are all different, we are into different music, style of dress, dating patterns. We live alternative lifestyles and we are even into alternative forms of beauty. We can be vegan, vegetarian, pescatarian. We are from all parts of the world and we like to travel the parts we have never been. Women of Color forge into areas that aren’t seen as traditionally ours, like beer brewing and tattooing. K-music, J-music, Latin Pop, Afro Beat, EDM, and rock are just some of the genres where we are widespread and share an interest in. We are feminist, traditionalist, minimalist, members of the 1%, political powerhouses, Rap songstresses, and women extraordinaires. We are all of these things under the umbrellas of being people of color and being women. We can be any label we want to apply to ourselves and not just the label assigned to us. We are allowed that basic human right.
the world of women doing things differently. We also want people who can tell their personal experiences and stories of breaking free or living alternatively. I’m excited to share this new direction with you, and I’m thrilled to share a safe space for women of color to be who they are. As always, thank you for supporting the blog on WordPress and Social Media. I will work hard to stay true to the new vision and direction we’re headed. I love you Playlisters, Besos!
I don’t always crush on the famous. Sometimes, it’s the regular guys and in this case, the Instafamous. I was minding my own business, doing what I do. Which basically means, I was scrolling through Instagram doing nothing but waste time (lol). That’s when I saw a video of a bunch of uber hunkey shirtless Asian guys and the one I was eyeing happened to be tagged. So, I did what any self-respecting girl with an Instagram account does. That’s right, I started insta stalking him and I discovered that he’s 186cm (roughly 6’1). Also, even though I didn’t understand a word he was saying, his voice was indeed as hott as the rest of him. The man is built to be a literal thirst trap.
muscles thing is cool and all. As in, if your personality and a decent height ( I’m a tall girl) is all there then I would probably give you a chance if you’re attractive. However, a nice muscular body will make you me stare you down a hallway with my body facing left and my head facing right any day. We’re talking the exorcist head spin (kidding, I actually turn my body around too because it’s the proper thing to do). This guy would definitely make me turn all the way around to watch him walk away (any fries with that shake? *wink wink). Because I’m generous, I will leave a slideshow below. I may learn Korean just to slide in his DM’s. Who knows I may end up with a hott Korean boyfriend across the pond (if he’s not taken I got dibs). Anyway, @rico_9c I have a crush on you and now all of the interweb knows it.
It perfectly summed up the situation. The episode entitled, It’s Hard Out Here for a Pimp, guest starring the very very yummy Diggy Simmons touched on something that has been a bit of a hot topic in the bwxm/ambw community. That would be the infamous dating hierarchy, research that was put out by OkCupid about dating trends. Placing White and Asian females toward the top as the most desired, and Black women and Asian men at the bottom. Although the series on slightly touched on Asian men, it did go into full detail concerning Black women.
and is difficult to deal with, colorism in dating and the double standard of interracial dating preferences of Black women versus Black Men. I felt this episode is what we needed to continue the conversation of Black women’s place in the dating world. I don’t want to go into too much detail and give the episode away, but I strongly suggest you take a look at it. As a bonus, you will be heavily rewarded with more than generous camera time of Diggy Simmons. Seriously, he’s going to have to be Zaddy of the week because he is sexy.
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