I released a short story via Love Journey: Shades of AMBW Halloween

Hey Guys! It’s been a while! How are you (tell me in the comments, lol)? I worked hard on a short story that’s featured in this Halloween themed book. Shades of AMBW Halloween is available on Amazon . Right now we are #3 for Halloween Anthology releases. 44070836_345603936193341_7665348229046730752_n  If you are a fan of Interracial romance or romance, in general, this book would be a great addition to your Kindle collection.  Check it out and let me know what you think! I’m excited to hear about your favorite stories from the book.

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How to: 3 ways to break up, that are more mature than ghosting.

You’ve met someone online, and you don’t like them. So, you want to pull a little disappearing act millennials like to refer to as ghosting.  It is the cowards way out if you think about it. Instead of telling the intended how you feel (being a mature adult), you choose to become an escape artist. Now you see me, now you don’t. Computers and smartphones have made it even easier to leave someone on read (sidenote: if you have an iPhone they can see you read a message and didn’t respond). Thus leaving them on read, you’re welcome non-millennials.). If you throw in online dating to the mix, you now have a powder keg of communication avoidance. You’ve never seen them face to face, so it’s easier to disregard their feelings. I’m here to improve your online and face to face relations. Here is my playlist on ways to end it rather than becoming Houdini reincarnated.

Say it to my face-Madison Beer

Face to Face is always the way to go for more serious breakups. If you are in a relationship with someone the least you can do to look them in the eye. We quickly forget how things are when the shoe is on the other foot. You asked yourself a million questions. Why has this person disappeared? The cell phone that is permanently attached to your hand becomes a fixture for your eyes. Anytime your phone lights up, you’re hoping it’s from that someone. In the back of your mind, you already know that it won’t be. You’ve likely sent a few more text than you should have and stalked them out of existence online. I’m sure you called them hesitating on whether to leave a voicemail. You start to wonder if your phone is even working. It has been with you a while, maybe it isn’t operating properly after all. Don’t put someone else through these mental Olympics, even if it has become part of our culture.  If you have been seeing someone for a while, even if the commitment isn’t official, end things in person. The closure isn’t just for them. It’s for you as well.

Video Phone-Beyonce

Technology has made some aspects of communication easier. If you are in a long distance relationship with someone, then video calling is the next best thing. Traveling all the way to someone can become expensive. It may not even be necessary if the relationship wasn’t official. Video calling gives you all the perks of face to face. The downside is physical touch won’t be there. If you are breaking up, chances are that isn’t a concern.

Text From Your Ex- Tinnie Tempah

This is the last of your options if you were in a relationship. But, if you have only been corresponding through text it’s perfectly fine. When you haven’t spoken to someone face to face, it’s the easiest to ghost them. I see the allure in it. It’s so easy just to not respond back to a message. You never have to talk to them again. We’re practicing better communication skills people. It starts with the text-only level of dating.  Send a simple message. It doesn’t have to be an sms paragraph. Explain that you don’t see your interactions going any further or that we aren’t the right fit for one another. If they want a further explanation, you can give it to them. If you don’t want to give them one, it would be the time to ask them not to contact you. Ask that they respect that. If they can’t well… Blocked.

Technology is an amazing invention. It gives us ways to communicate if face to face isn’t an option. It also makes it entirely too easy to be a coward behind characters and emojis. Being an adult means to be responsible with relationships as well. Making sure you do the right thing isn’t just for when you like a person. It’s for when you are ready to walk away as well.

I hope this helped hone your breakup skills. If you like post like this, let me know. Leave a comment telling me how you broke up with someone. If you have a crazy breakup story I would love to hear it. As always thank you for supporting the blog. You’ve been patient with the changes going on with the site. Don’t forget to like, comment, follow and subscribe to the blog on WordPress and social media.  As always we are accepting pitches from writers. Send them to pinkhairblogger@gmail.com. Label it, Blog Pitch.  Love you guys! Besos!

 

 

 

Midpoint Check In: Switching Gears

At this point, I’ve been running My Infinite Playlist for a little over half a year. I’ve happy turn up GIF by Originals-sourcelearned somethings about blogging, running a site and the direction in which the blog is going.  So far I have seen a little increase in dedicated readership. Which is what I would like. I want the reader who will stay with us through the journey. The passive readers are great too. I’m confident in the content that I create on this site, and I am sure once a member of our target audience experiences the world of M.I.P they will stick around for good.

“We are from all parts of the world and we like to travel the parts we have never been. Women of Color forge into areas that aren’t seen as traditionally ours…”

New Themes:

I realized the true direction I wanted to take this blog. It started off as an interracial blog, wonder woman beyonce GIF-sourceand I would still like to keep that as a topic that we visit. However, I really would like to focus on the overall theme that black women and other women of color are non-monolithic. We are all different, we are into different music, style of dress, dating patterns. We live alternative lifestyles and we are even into alternative forms of beauty. We can be vegan, vegetarian, pescatarian. We are from all parts of the world and we like to travel the parts we have never been. Women of Color forge into areas that aren’t seen as traditionally ours, like beer brewing and tattooing. K-music, J-music, Latin Pop, Afro Beat, EDM, and rock are just some of the genres where we are widespread and share an interest in. We are feminist, traditionalist, minimalist, members of the 1%, political powerhouses, Rap songstresses, and women extraordinaires. We are all of these things under the umbrellas of being people of color and being women. We can be any label we want to apply to ourselves and not just the label assigned to us. We are allowed that basic human right.

“I want to give a different perspective to people who have confined us to a box according to our assigned gender and race. “

Forging Ahead:

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So in the continuity of this blog, I would like to document those experiences of women. Especially, women of color who are forging in directions that aren’t traditionally ours to be had. I want to give a different perspective to people who have confined us to a box according to our assigned gender and race. We will continue to be all of the sexy millennial fun of man crush Monday, and we will mix it with the radical faces of women who refuse to be labeled.

“I will work hard to stay true to the new vision and direction we’re headed”

Hey You, Yes You. We’re Looking for you!

We are still looking for contributors that share our vision and that can offer a view into giphy (72)the world of women doing things differently. We also want people who can tell their personal experiences and stories of breaking free or living alternatively. I’m excited to share this new direction with you, and I’m thrilled to share a safe space for women of color to be who they are.  As always, thank you for supporting the blog on WordPress and Social Media. I will work hard to stay true to the new vision and direction we’re headed. I love you Playlisters, Besos!

MCM Instagram Crush Addition: @rico_9c

So it’s your favorite time of the week Man Crush Monday and it’s the Instagram addition.Screenshot_20180618-214123 I don’t always crush on the famous. Sometimes, it’s the regular guys and in this case, the Instafamous.  I was minding my own business, doing what I do. Which basically means, I was scrolling through Instagram doing nothing but waste time (lol). That’s when I saw a video of a bunch of uber hunkey shirtless Asian guys and the one I was eyeing happened to be tagged. So, I did what any self-respecting girl with an Instagram account does. That’s right, I started insta stalking him and I discovered that he’s 186cm (roughly 6’1). Also, even though I didn’t understand a word he was saying, his voice was indeed as hott as the rest of him. The man is built to be a literal thirst trap.

 

Some girls like the waif look. The slim with defined Screenshot_20180618-213934muscles thing is cool and all. As in, if your personality and a decent height ( I’m a tall girl) is all there then I would probably give you a chance if you’re attractive. However, a nice muscular body will make you me stare you down a hallway with my body facing left and my head facing right any day. We’re talking the exorcist head spin (kidding, I actually turn my body around too because it’s the proper thing to do). This guy would definitely make me turn all the way around to watch him walk away (any fries with that shake? *wink wink). Because I’m generous, I will leave a slideshow below. I may learn Korean just to slide in his DM’s.  Who knows I may end up with a hott Korean boyfriend across the pond (if he’s not taken I got dibs). Anyway, @rico_9c I have a crush on you and now all of the interweb knows it.

As always, thanks for supporting the blog! Don’t forget to like, comment, follow, subscribe, and share on WordPress and social media! Love you to pieces Playlister’s, Besos!

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The return of MCM <3: Cole Sprouse aka Jughead Jones

Screenshot_20180604-200036**Wags eyebrows** Guess whose backkkkkkkkkkkk?! That’s right. it’s your favorite day of the week. Or maybe just your favorite time of the week, where we lust after hott men and swoon over cute guys. In case your wondering the Brenden Dahle post is still doing pretty well, but he has had to hand over the Zaddy crown to Julio Macias of On My Block. Those two are just too hott to handle. Also, shout out to our other MCM alum who have shown love to the social pages after being featured. You are appreciated :-). Now onto Hott Man business.

Today’s MCM goes out to Mr. Suite Life of Zack and Cody,

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Omg, I’m licking the screen…

Mr. Full House Twins (if you want to date him back that far, but really when most of us practically threw our panties at the screen Mr. Riverdale Serpent King Jughead Jones. I don’t know if its the jacket or what, but the kid is hott. I’m not even kidding. He made most of us secretly wish something would happen to Betty so we could replace her. But then again…we love Bughead so Just Kidding, lol. He’s the love of my Wednesday nightlife every week( right before Jamal Lyon when he isn’t crying).  When he’s not steaming up the Riverdale screen, he’s busy trolling his fans on Instagram for sneaking pictures of him, lol. It really must be weird to constantly have people sneaking pictures of you after they recognize you.

Screenshot_20180604-200122Anywho, to Cole Sprouse twin of the other hott Sprouse, love of my Wednesday nightlife. I seriously adore you, and I would like for you to know I have a crush on you. To my loyal readers, I appreciate you. To the newcomers, welcome! Don’t forget to Like, Comment, Subscribe, Follow and Share us on Word Press and Social Media! Enjoy Cole in all of his hott glory below. Love you to life PLaylisters! Besos!

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Grown-ish did an episode about dating as black women and you need to watch

Grown-ish, the Freeform spinoff to the ABC hit series Blackish starring Yara Shahidi did an Episode about Black Women and dating.Screenshot_20180308-002037 It perfectly summed up the situation. The episode entitled, It’s Hard Out Here for a Pimp, guest starring the very very yummy Diggy Simmons touched on something that has been a bit of a hot topic in the bwxm/ambw community. That would be the infamous dating hierarchy,  research that was put out by OkCupid about dating trends. Placing White and Asian females toward the top as the most desired, and Black women and Asian men at the bottom. Although the series on slightly touched on Asian men, it did go into full detail concerning Black women.

The episode hit all the bases as quickly as possible in its short 30 minutes (plus commercials) ranging from the angry Black woman who has an attitudediggy and is difficult to deal with, colorism in dating and the double standard of interracial dating preferences of Black women versus Black Men. I felt this episode is what we needed to continue the conversation of Black women’s place in the dating world. I don’t want to go into too much detail and give the episode away, but I strongly suggest you take a look at it. As a bonus, you will be heavily rewarded with more than generous camera time of Diggy Simmons. Seriously, he’s going to have to be Zaddy of the week because he is sexy.

Story Time: A new segment where you read my business in story form. lol

Yall, be careful out here on these dating sites. So, I’m on a dating site minding my own adult business when I matched with a guy that at a closer glance looks 12. I really didn’t think he would message me guys and BAM…I get a message. Yeah, from him the 12-year-old. So, we’re doing the normal dating app tango. How are you? I’m, good How are you? Literally, biding my time before I can ask how old he really is. Then the money questions start hitting. What brings you to this app for 3000 Alex? giphy (77).gifThe Jeopardy questions, do or die. Will you stay with him or have a Change of heart (any walkers with tennis balls or grey-haired wigs remember that show?…you’re also 12? Got it. lol) Anywhosal, of course with my assumption that he’s 12 I pretty much get the answer you are 85% likely to get from a younger guy. “I’m looking for fun.” or my favorite “I’m bored.” which translates as, “I’m looking for fun.”.

With all those exchanges out of the way, it’s time for me to ask the question. I really want to know because you can’t talk about fun with anyone that’s 12. Before I can ask, he beat me to it, “How old are you?”. Ok, that can be an innocent question for a woman of color because look…we do not age. My closest up in age female family members could pass for 40. It’s that deep.giphy (78).gif However, in this case that normally means that they lied about their age on the dating site. I was just sitting there waiting to smugly collect my bet money from myself. I answer his little question and I finally am able to ask, how old are you?

So instead of answering my question, which someone who is only a smidge bit younger would do. He makes the rookie mistake of answering question with a question, “Do you mind if I’m younger?”. I’m already preparing myself for prison because I got catfished by a minor. I’m mentally writing my note about someone putting money on my books just for answering a message from this dude. I’m like, “How much younger?”. The answering a question with a question game starts again. I start looking for cameras around my house from, To Catch A Predatorgiphy (81).gif, and Chris Hansen popping up out of nowhere grilling me.  “Like, if I was alot younger?”, he asks again.  I’m talking to God at this point because I just signed up for this site, out of curiosity at that. It’s day one, and this can’t be life. It just can’t be. I was minding my business on a Thursday.  At this point, I’m demanding, “How old are you?!”.  He finally tells me…hold your breath…18. I’m halfway relieved…sort of. The other half is not relieved. He could still be lying but that’s basically 5 for me. I have to inform this young man (yes, I pulled out my adult language for this, lol) that when he was born Cash Money Records was taking over for the 99 and the 2000, and I remember.

Moral of the story? If they look 12, don’t swipe right. If you accidentally swipe right, don’t answer the message, because they’re probably this many (**holds up 5 fingers).  Has this happened to you? Sound off in the comments below. As always, please don’t forget to Like, Comment and Follow. You can find me on Instagram here, or on Facebook here. Besos!giphy (90).gif

Relationships are Black and White: My Story of ditching the Rules

NP: Black or White – Michael Jackson, Dangerous

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I always followed the beat of my own drum in the romance department. I didn’t see a lot of people like me on television growing up. So, I was indeed unique. As a kid my extended family members would always whisper to each other how I (liked white boys). The kicker is, I had not done anything to make them think so. As a matter of fact, I spent most of my adolescence trying to subconsciously convince my parents that I wasn’t attracted to anyone (my parents were strict…really strict). It actually ended up going the opposite way, my mom was convinced I was a lesbian. Which wasn’t true either but, me growing up in a religious household made that belief come with another set of issues. I won’t even get started on what I was accused of, lol. I can’t figure out how she came up with that to this day. She went through my room everyday when I was at school. So, I’m almost POSITIVE she came across that hidden picture of Johnathan Taylor Thomas in my room. Before I go into the whole, me liking guys who didn’t look like me, thing.  I’ll go into why I was hiding the fact that I liked guys. After all it’s pretty much a natural fact that eventually most people will be attracted to someone.

Jesus of Suburbia- Green Day

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I had the worlds strictest parents in the history of parents. My parents were strict and afrocentric when I was growing up. My mom was the one who raised my sisters and I, because my dad worked a lot. My older sister pretty much laid half of the groundwork for why myself and my other 2 sisters weren’t allowed to do much. Hell, I wasn’t even allowed to think my own thoughts my mom was so strict. To this day, I still have no idea how she got away with half of the things that she did. Or even, why my sister would attempt it. My parents are full believers of whoopins (not spankings, I think that word is too soft. Also, yes I know it’s technically whippings but this is the word most people I know use). I’m pretty sure we all got them all the way up to 17 or 18. I was scared shitless, but apparently my other 3 sisters weren’t because they did things I didn’t have the balls to attempt. So, basically boys were bad. So, basically even 4-year-old me knew that if boys were bad then liking boys that didn’t look like me were worse.

Everybody Knows – Leonard Cohen

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So, pretty much everyone could sense that I was into guys that didn’t have my coloring. All I knew was that I was always attracted to all kinds of guys, guys of different colors and cultures. The very first boy who I liked was a Mexican boy that went to my catholic preschool. He dressed like Zorro without the cape, lol. Hey, don’t judge it was a different time. I’m pretty sure no one knew I liked him though. I’ve been introverted my whole life so I wasn’t blabbing about who I was into to the world. My one sister knew, but we are only a few years apart and we shared a room for a while. I was pretty much like every 90’s middle school cliché that wrote in her diary while looking out her window on her window seat. Minus the diary, because I am a internalizer. I internalize my shit, lol. I wrote stories down, but not feelings. I couldn’t have a paper trail. Remember, my mom went through my room everyday that I went off to school. Also minus the window seat. I wanted one sooooo bad. I wanted to do major middle school shit from my window. I was also in elementary school. So, there was that. My next crush was this gorgeous dark complected guy. I liked him for a little while when I was younger. He went to my church, and sense I lived there…yeah a lot of stories happened there. Most of them with me as the lookout or accomplice. My sister was a rebel. Another story for another time, lol.

Modern Day Romance- Nitty Gritty Dirt Band

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Now,  I’m pretty forward about my interest in men of all cultural backgrounds. I lived with the whispers long enough to not care. I’m sure at this stage in my life my parents are just glad that I may reproduce soon. You would be surprised to see the way parents evolve into acceptance when they think you may be alone forever, lol. Also, we live in a different time. Examples of different relationship types are everywhere. I think because we now see these relationships everywhere we are becoming more accepting as a society. At the very least society is becoming desensitized to it.  Dating has come a very long way, and I’m also a millennial adult. People are more forthcoming about who gets their party going to their loved ones and friends. I’m interested in documenting my past/ present experiences as well as knowledge that I’ve come across with the rest of you.  I know most of you are looking for ways to chart the territories of modern-day dating. I look forward to seeing this blog evolve and see where it can take us. I hope I can make you laugh, have some great discussions and you leave feeling a little better afterwards or at least make you think. Lol! I love you guys. Hit that replay button on the playlist if you need a second go around. Don’t forget to Like this post and Subscribe to the blog! Feel free to comment your thoughts to the post! Bye! Besos!

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