My Ex Watches All My Snaps

Hey Buddies, it’s been awhile. You’ve been searching for answers on Google. Your Ex has been doing something suspicious; you sought out the girl with all the answers. I think I know what you want to know. Let me set up the scene for you. You finally ended things with your ex, or they’ve ended things with you.  It’s been a few months and you noticed that your Ex watches your social media like teenagers watch Riverdale. Every time you post a picture or a video their name appears on the list of people who have watched your story. They’re stalking you, obviously. So, here I am with my cape to give you a playlist of reasons why you’re hunted by the ghost of your Ex.

Want That Old Thing Back – Biggie Smalls

Your Ex misses you. It’s that simple. They are trying to figure out the best way to pop up “just to see how you’re doing”.  They weren’t ready to let you go yet. Or at least they thought they were ready to let you go, and discovered they weren’t. So, here they are stalking you trying to figure out when they should drop in and send you a message.

Case of the Ex -Mya

They want to see how your life is fairing without them. We all leave our Exes with the hope that they are doing horrible without us. We hope that our former significant others can’t even tie their shoes without us. So what’s the best way to know whether the Ex is in despair because we knew they’d be sorry we left? That’s right, stalking. You have to do a little investigative work to know that the Exes life is falling apart.

I Miss You – Clean Bandit

They Miss you, but they don’t necessarily want you back. They like to reminisce about the times you shared together. However, in the words of Taylor Swift “We are never ever ever getting back together”. Sometimes you don’t want your Ex back. You just like to see what they’re up to every once in a while. They are simply just watching you to make sure you are ok. There is no malice, it’s over and they recognize that. It’s just that occasionally it’s nice just to see how an old flame is doing. What is the best way to find out without having to call? Stalk them a little bit.

At the end of it all, if you really want to know why your Ex is perusing your social media you can ask. They may think you’re reaching out; chances are if you want to know then asking why they watch all your stories is an excuse. If not you wouldn’t have taken the time out to stumble upon this blog (wags eyebrows).

As always thank you for supporting the blog.  Unlike your Ex, we don’t mind you stalking us on Social Media. Follow, subscribe, like, comment us on WordPress and our other social sites. If you would like to contribute to the blog, shoot us a message at pinkhairblogger@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram or Facebook! Have a wonderful rest of week. Besos!

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How to: 3 ways to break up, that are more mature than ghosting.

You’ve met someone online, and you don’t like them. So, you want to pull a little disappearing act millennials like to refer to as ghosting.  It is the cowards way out if you think about it. Instead of telling the intended how you feel (being a mature adult), you choose to become an escape artist. Now you see me, now you don’t. Computers and smartphones have made it even easier to leave someone on read (sidenote: if you have an iPhone they can see you read a message and didn’t respond). Thus leaving them on read, you’re welcome non-millennials.). If you throw in online dating to the mix, you now have a powder keg of communication avoidance. You’ve never seen them face to face, so it’s easier to disregard their feelings. I’m here to improve your online and face to face relations. Here is my playlist on ways to end it rather than becoming Houdini reincarnated.

Say it to my face-Madison Beer

Face to Face is always the way to go for more serious breakups. If you are in a relationship with someone the least you can do to look them in the eye. We quickly forget how things are when the shoe is on the other foot. You asked yourself a million questions. Why has this person disappeared? The cell phone that is permanently attached to your hand becomes a fixture for your eyes. Anytime your phone lights up, you’re hoping it’s from that someone. In the back of your mind, you already know that it won’t be. You’ve likely sent a few more text than you should have and stalked them out of existence online. I’m sure you called them hesitating on whether to leave a voicemail. You start to wonder if your phone is even working. It has been with you a while, maybe it isn’t operating properly after all. Don’t put someone else through these mental Olympics, even if it has become part of our culture.  If you have been seeing someone for a while, even if the commitment isn’t official, end things in person. The closure isn’t just for them. It’s for you as well.

Video Phone-Beyonce

Technology has made some aspects of communication easier. If you are in a long distance relationship with someone, then video calling is the next best thing. Traveling all the way to someone can become expensive. It may not even be necessary if the relationship wasn’t official. Video calling gives you all the perks of face to face. The downside is physical touch won’t be there. If you are breaking up, chances are that isn’t a concern.

Text From Your Ex- Tinnie Tempah

This is the last of your options if you were in a relationship. But, if you have only been corresponding through text it’s perfectly fine. When you haven’t spoken to someone face to face, it’s the easiest to ghost them. I see the allure in it. It’s so easy just to not respond back to a message. You never have to talk to them again. We’re practicing better communication skills people. It starts with the text-only level of dating.  Send a simple message. It doesn’t have to be an sms paragraph. Explain that you don’t see your interactions going any further or that we aren’t the right fit for one another. If they want a further explanation, you can give it to them. If you don’t want to give them one, it would be the time to ask them not to contact you. Ask that they respect that. If they can’t well… Blocked.

Technology is an amazing invention. It gives us ways to communicate if face to face isn’t an option. It also makes it entirely too easy to be a coward behind characters and emojis. Being an adult means to be responsible with relationships as well. Making sure you do the right thing isn’t just for when you like a person. It’s for when you are ready to walk away as well.

I hope this helped hone your breakup skills. If you like post like this, let me know. Leave a comment telling me how you broke up with someone. If you have a crazy breakup story I would love to hear it. As always thank you for supporting the blog. You’ve been patient with the changes going on with the site. Don’t forget to like, comment, follow and subscribe to the blog on WordPress and social media.  As always we are accepting pitches from writers. Send them to pinkhairblogger@gmail.com. Label it, Blog Pitch.  Love you guys! Besos!

 

 

 

Zaddy of the Week: Christian Yu

Christian Yu is a stone cold fox, and I literally had to come off of my hiatus to tell you guys. Every ounce of this man is a thirst trap, and I don’t understand why he has to trap us so hard. Everything about him is built for ultimate lustification, from his tattoos to the way he styles his hair. I mean, he took a picture of himself waking up and I still wanted him. That’s a gift right there. If you feel like being thirst trapped, follow him on Instagram @christianyu_ . You’re welcome. ❤

As always thank you for supporting the blog. Don’t forget to follow us, subscribe, comment and like us on WordPress and social media. My Infinite Playlist is accepting submissions so please e-mail me at pinkhairblogger@gmail.com! Check out the pictures of Chuando below. Love you! Besos!

Midpoint Check In: Switching Gears

At this point, I’ve been running My Infinite Playlist for a little over half a year. I’ve happy turn up GIF by Originals-sourcelearned somethings about blogging, running a site and the direction in which the blog is going.  So far I have seen a little increase in dedicated readership. Which is what I would like. I want the reader who will stay with us through the journey. The passive readers are great too. I’m confident in the content that I create on this site, and I am sure once a member of our target audience experiences the world of M.I.P they will stick around for good.

“We are from all parts of the world and we like to travel the parts we have never been. Women of Color forge into areas that aren’t seen as traditionally ours…”

New Themes:

I realized the true direction I wanted to take this blog. It started off as an interracial blog, wonder woman beyonce GIF-sourceand I would still like to keep that as a topic that we visit. However, I really would like to focus on the overall theme that black women and other women of color are non-monolithic. We are all different, we are into different music, style of dress, dating patterns. We live alternative lifestyles and we are even into alternative forms of beauty. We can be vegan, vegetarian, pescatarian. We are from all parts of the world and we like to travel the parts we have never been. Women of Color forge into areas that aren’t seen as traditionally ours, like beer brewing and tattooing. K-music, J-music, Latin Pop, Afro Beat, EDM, and rock are just some of the genres where we are widespread and share an interest in. We are feminist, traditionalist, minimalist, members of the 1%, political powerhouses, Rap songstresses, and women extraordinaires. We are all of these things under the umbrellas of being people of color and being women. We can be any label we want to apply to ourselves and not just the label assigned to us. We are allowed that basic human right.

“I want to give a different perspective to people who have confined us to a box according to our assigned gender and race. “

Forging Ahead:

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So in the continuity of this blog, I would like to document those experiences of women. Especially, women of color who are forging in directions that aren’t traditionally ours to be had. I want to give a different perspective to people who have confined us to a box according to our assigned gender and race. We will continue to be all of the sexy millennial fun of man crush Monday, and we will mix it with the radical faces of women who refuse to be labeled.

“I will work hard to stay true to the new vision and direction we’re headed”

Hey You, Yes You. We’re Looking for you!

We are still looking for contributors that share our vision and that can offer a view into giphy (72)the world of women doing things differently. We also want people who can tell their personal experiences and stories of breaking free or living alternatively. I’m excited to share this new direction with you, and I’m thrilled to share a safe space for women of color to be who they are.  As always, thank you for supporting the blog on WordPress and Social Media. I will work hard to stay true to the new vision and direction we’re headed. I love you Playlisters, Besos!

MCM Instagram Crush Addition: @rico_9c

So it’s your favorite time of the week Man Crush Monday and it’s the Instagram addition.Screenshot_20180618-214123 I don’t always crush on the famous. Sometimes, it’s the regular guys and in this case, the Instafamous.  I was minding my own business, doing what I do. Which basically means, I was scrolling through Instagram doing nothing but waste time (lol). That’s when I saw a video of a bunch of uber hunkey shirtless Asian guys and the one I was eyeing happened to be tagged. So, I did what any self-respecting girl with an Instagram account does. That’s right, I started insta stalking him and I discovered that he’s 186cm (roughly 6’1). Also, even though I didn’t understand a word he was saying, his voice was indeed as hott as the rest of him. The man is built to be a literal thirst trap.

 

Some girls like the waif look. The slim with defined Screenshot_20180618-213934muscles thing is cool and all. As in, if your personality and a decent height ( I’m a tall girl) is all there then I would probably give you a chance if you’re attractive. However, a nice muscular body will make you me stare you down a hallway with my body facing left and my head facing right any day. We’re talking the exorcist head spin (kidding, I actually turn my body around too because it’s the proper thing to do). This guy would definitely make me turn all the way around to watch him walk away (any fries with that shake? *wink wink). Because I’m generous, I will leave a slideshow below. I may learn Korean just to slide in his DM’s.  Who knows I may end up with a hott Korean boyfriend across the pond (if he’s not taken I got dibs). Anyway, @rico_9c I have a crush on you and now all of the interweb knows it.

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Grown-ish did an episode about dating as black women and you need to watch

Grown-ish, the Freeform spinoff to the ABC hit series Blackish starring Yara Shahidi did an Episode about Black Women and dating.Screenshot_20180308-002037 It perfectly summed up the situation. The episode entitled, It’s Hard Out Here for a Pimp, guest starring the very very yummy Diggy Simmons touched on something that has been a bit of a hot topic in the bwxm/ambw community. That would be the infamous dating hierarchy,  research that was put out by OkCupid about dating trends. Placing White and Asian females toward the top as the most desired, and Black women and Asian men at the bottom. Although the series on slightly touched on Asian men, it did go into full detail concerning Black women.

The episode hit all the bases as quickly as possible in its short 30 minutes (plus commercials) ranging from the angry Black woman who has an attitudediggy and is difficult to deal with, colorism in dating and the double standard of interracial dating preferences of Black women versus Black Men. I felt this episode is what we needed to continue the conversation of Black women’s place in the dating world. I don’t want to go into too much detail and give the episode away, but I strongly suggest you take a look at it. As a bonus, you will be heavily rewarded with more than generous camera time of Diggy Simmons. Seriously, he’s going to have to be Zaddy of the week because he is sexy.

Story Time: A new segment where you read my business in story form. lol

Yall, be careful out here on these dating sites. So, I’m on a dating site minding my own adult business when I matched with a guy that at a closer glance looks 12. I really didn’t think he would message me guys and BAM…I get a message. Yeah, from him the 12-year-old. So, we’re doing the normal dating app tango. How are you? I’m, good How are you? Literally, biding my time before I can ask how old he really is. Then the money questions start hitting. What brings you to this app for 3000 Alex? giphy (77).gifThe Jeopardy questions, do or die. Will you stay with him or have a Change of heart (any walkers with tennis balls or grey-haired wigs remember that show?…you’re also 12? Got it. lol) Anywhosal, of course with my assumption that he’s 12 I pretty much get the answer you are 85% likely to get from a younger guy. “I’m looking for fun.” or my favorite “I’m bored.” which translates as, “I’m looking for fun.”.

With all those exchanges out of the way, it’s time for me to ask the question. I really want to know because you can’t talk about fun with anyone that’s 12. Before I can ask, he beat me to it, “How old are you?”. Ok, that can be an innocent question for a woman of color because look…we do not age. My closest up in age female family members could pass for 40. It’s that deep.giphy (78).gif However, in this case that normally means that they lied about their age on the dating site. I was just sitting there waiting to smugly collect my bet money from myself. I answer his little question and I finally am able to ask, how old are you?

So instead of answering my question, which someone who is only a smidge bit younger would do. He makes the rookie mistake of answering question with a question, “Do you mind if I’m younger?”. I’m already preparing myself for prison because I got catfished by a minor. I’m mentally writing my note about someone putting money on my books just for answering a message from this dude. I’m like, “How much younger?”. The answering a question with a question game starts again. I start looking for cameras around my house from, To Catch A Predatorgiphy (81).gif, and Chris Hansen popping up out of nowhere grilling me.  “Like, if I was alot younger?”, he asks again.  I’m talking to God at this point because I just signed up for this site, out of curiosity at that. It’s day one, and this can’t be life. It just can’t be. I was minding my business on a Thursday.  At this point, I’m demanding, “How old are you?!”.  He finally tells me…hold your breath…18. I’m halfway relieved…sort of. The other half is not relieved. He could still be lying but that’s basically 5 for me. I have to inform this young man (yes, I pulled out my adult language for this, lol) that when he was born Cash Money Records was taking over for the 99 and the 2000, and I remember.

Moral of the story? If they look 12, don’t swipe right. If you accidentally swipe right, don’t answer the message, because they’re probably this many (**holds up 5 fingers).  Has this happened to you? Sound off in the comments below. As always, please don’t forget to Like, Comment and Follow. You can find me on Instagram here, or on Facebook here. Besos!giphy (90).gif

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