I released a short story via Love Journey: Shades of AMBW Halloween

Hey Guys! It’s been a while! How are you (tell me in the comments, lol)? I worked hard on a short story that’s featured in this Halloween themed book. Shades of AMBW Halloween is available on Amazon . Right now we are #3 for Halloween Anthology releases. 44070836_345603936193341_7665348229046730752_n  If you are a fan of Interracial romance or romance, in general, this book would be a great addition to your Kindle collection.  Check it out and let me know what you think! I’m excited to hear about your favorite stories from the book.

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How to: 3 ways to break up, that are more mature than ghosting.

You’ve met someone online, and you don’t like them. So, you want to pull a little disappearing act millennials like to refer to as ghosting.  It is the cowards way out if you think about it. Instead of telling the intended how you feel (being a mature adult), you choose to become an escape artist. Now you see me, now you don’t. Computers and smartphones have made it even easier to leave someone on read (sidenote: if you have an iPhone they can see you read a message and didn’t respond). Thus leaving them on read, you’re welcome non-millennials.). If you throw in online dating to the mix, you now have a powder keg of communication avoidance. You’ve never seen them face to face, so it’s easier to disregard their feelings. I’m here to improve your online and face to face relations. Here is my playlist on ways to end it rather than becoming Houdini reincarnated.

Say it to my face-Madison Beer

Face to Face is always the way to go for more serious breakups. If you are in a relationship with someone the least you can do to look them in the eye. We quickly forget how things are when the shoe is on the other foot. You asked yourself a million questions. Why has this person disappeared? The cell phone that is permanently attached to your hand becomes a fixture for your eyes. Anytime your phone lights up, you’re hoping it’s from that someone. In the back of your mind, you already know that it won’t be. You’ve likely sent a few more text than you should have and stalked them out of existence online. I’m sure you called them hesitating on whether to leave a voicemail. You start to wonder if your phone is even working. It has been with you a while, maybe it isn’t operating properly after all. Don’t put someone else through these mental Olympics, even if it has become part of our culture.  If you have been seeing someone for a while, even if the commitment isn’t official, end things in person. The closure isn’t just for them. It’s for you as well.

Video Phone-Beyonce

Technology has made some aspects of communication easier. If you are in a long distance relationship with someone, then video calling is the next best thing. Traveling all the way to someone can become expensive. It may not even be necessary if the relationship wasn’t official. Video calling gives you all the perks of face to face. The downside is physical touch won’t be there. If you are breaking up, chances are that isn’t a concern.

Text From Your Ex- Tinnie Tempah

This is the last of your options if you were in a relationship. But, if you have only been corresponding through text it’s perfectly fine. When you haven’t spoken to someone face to face, it’s the easiest to ghost them. I see the allure in it. It’s so easy just to not respond back to a message. You never have to talk to them again. We’re practicing better communication skills people. It starts with the text-only level of dating.  Send a simple message. It doesn’t have to be an sms paragraph. Explain that you don’t see your interactions going any further or that we aren’t the right fit for one another. If they want a further explanation, you can give it to them. If you don’t want to give them one, it would be the time to ask them not to contact you. Ask that they respect that. If they can’t well… Blocked.

Technology is an amazing invention. It gives us ways to communicate if face to face isn’t an option. It also makes it entirely too easy to be a coward behind characters and emojis. Being an adult means to be responsible with relationships as well. Making sure you do the right thing isn’t just for when you like a person. It’s for when you are ready to walk away as well.

I hope this helped hone your breakup skills. If you like post like this, let me know. Leave a comment telling me how you broke up with someone. If you have a crazy breakup story I would love to hear it. As always thank you for supporting the blog. You’ve been patient with the changes going on with the site. Don’t forget to like, comment, follow and subscribe to the blog on WordPress and social media.  As always we are accepting pitches from writers. Send them to pinkhairblogger@gmail.com. Label it, Blog Pitch.  Love you guys! Besos!

 

 

 

Grown-ish did an episode about dating as black women and you need to watch

Grown-ish, the Freeform spinoff to the ABC hit series Blackish starring Yara Shahidi did an Episode about Black Women and dating.Screenshot_20180308-002037 It perfectly summed up the situation. The episode entitled, It’s Hard Out Here for a Pimp, guest starring the very very yummy Diggy Simmons touched on something that has been a bit of a hot topic in the bwxm/ambw community. That would be the infamous dating hierarchy,  research that was put out by OkCupid about dating trends. Placing White and Asian females toward the top as the most desired, and Black women and Asian men at the bottom. Although the series on slightly touched on Asian men, it did go into full detail concerning Black women.

The episode hit all the bases as quickly as possible in its short 30 minutes (plus commercials) ranging from the angry Black woman who has an attitudediggy and is difficult to deal with, colorism in dating and the double standard of interracial dating preferences of Black women versus Black Men. I felt this episode is what we needed to continue the conversation of Black women’s place in the dating world. I don’t want to go into too much detail and give the episode away, but I strongly suggest you take a look at it. As a bonus, you will be heavily rewarded with more than generous camera time of Diggy Simmons. Seriously, he’s going to have to be Zaddy of the week because he is sexy.

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