How to: 3 ways to break up, that are more mature than ghosting.

You’ve met someone online, and you don’t like them. So, you want to pull a little disappearing act millennials like to refer to as ghosting.  It is the cowards way out if you think about it. Instead of telling the intended how you feel (being a mature adult), you choose to become an escape artist. Now you see me, now you don’t. Computers and smartphones have made it even easier to leave someone on read (sidenote: if you have an iPhone they can see you read a message and didn’t respond). Thus leaving them on read, you’re welcome non-millennials.). If you throw in online dating to the mix, you now have a powder keg of communication avoidance. You’ve never seen them face to face, so it’s easier to disregard their feelings. I’m here to improve your online and face to face relations. Here is my playlist on ways to end it rather than becoming Houdini reincarnated.

Say it to my face-Madison Beer

Face to Face is always the way to go for more serious breakups. If you are in a relationship with someone the least you can do to look them in the eye. We quickly forget how things are when the shoe is on the other foot. You asked yourself a million questions. Why has this person disappeared? The cell phone that is permanently attached to your hand becomes a fixture for your eyes. Anytime your phone lights up, you’re hoping it’s from that someone. In the back of your mind, you already know that it won’t be. You’ve likely sent a few more text than you should have and stalked them out of existence online. I’m sure you called them hesitating on whether to leave a voicemail. You start to wonder if your phone is even working. It has been with you a while, maybe it isn’t operating properly after all. Don’t put someone else through these mental Olympics, even if it has become part of our culture.  If you have been seeing someone for a while, even if the commitment isn’t official, end things in person. The closure isn’t just for them. It’s for you as well.

Video Phone-Beyonce

Technology has made some aspects of communication easier. If you are in a long distance relationship with someone, then video calling is the next best thing. Traveling all the way to someone can become expensive. It may not even be necessary if the relationship wasn’t official. Video calling gives you all the perks of face to face. The downside is physical touch won’t be there. If you are breaking up, chances are that isn’t a concern.

Text From Your Ex- Tinnie Tempah

This is the last of your options if you were in a relationship. But, if you have only been corresponding through text it’s perfectly fine. When you haven’t spoken to someone face to face, it’s the easiest to ghost them. I see the allure in it. It’s so easy just to not respond back to a message. You never have to talk to them again. We’re practicing better communication skills people. It starts with the text-only level of dating.  Send a simple message. It doesn’t have to be an sms paragraph. Explain that you don’t see your interactions going any further or that we aren’t the right fit for one another. If they want a further explanation, you can give it to them. If you don’t want to give them one, it would be the time to ask them not to contact you. Ask that they respect that. If they can’t well… Blocked.

Technology is an amazing invention. It gives us ways to communicate if face to face isn’t an option. It also makes it entirely too easy to be a coward behind characters and emojis. Being an adult means to be responsible with relationships as well. Making sure you do the right thing isn’t just for when you like a person. It’s for when you are ready to walk away as well.

I hope this helped hone your breakup skills. If you like post like this, let me know. Leave a comment telling me how you broke up with someone. If you have a crazy breakup story I would love to hear it. As always thank you for supporting the blog. You’ve been patient with the changes going on with the site. Don’t forget to like, comment, follow and subscribe to the blog on WordPress and social media.  As always we are accepting pitches from writers. Send them to pinkhairblogger@gmail.com. Label it, Blog Pitch.  Love you guys! Besos!

 

 

 

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Midpoint Check In: Switching Gears

At this point, I’ve been running My Infinite Playlist for a little over half a year. I’ve happy turn up GIF by Originals-sourcelearned somethings about blogging, running a site and the direction in which the blog is going.  So far I have seen a little increase in dedicated readership. Which is what I would like. I want the reader who will stay with us through the journey. The passive readers are great too. I’m confident in the content that I create on this site, and I am sure once a member of our target audience experiences the world of M.I.P they will stick around for good.

“We are from all parts of the world and we like to travel the parts we have never been. Women of Color forge into areas that aren’t seen as traditionally ours…”

New Themes:

I realized the true direction I wanted to take this blog. It started off as an interracial blog, wonder woman beyonce GIF-sourceand I would still like to keep that as a topic that we visit. However, I really would like to focus on the overall theme that black women and other women of color are non-monolithic. We are all different, we are into different music, style of dress, dating patterns. We live alternative lifestyles and we are even into alternative forms of beauty. We can be vegan, vegetarian, pescatarian. We are from all parts of the world and we like to travel the parts we have never been. Women of Color forge into areas that aren’t seen as traditionally ours, like beer brewing and tattooing. K-music, J-music, Latin Pop, Afro Beat, EDM, and rock are just some of the genres where we are widespread and share an interest in. We are feminist, traditionalist, minimalist, members of the 1%, political powerhouses, Rap songstresses, and women extraordinaires. We are all of these things under the umbrellas of being people of color and being women. We can be any label we want to apply to ourselves and not just the label assigned to us. We are allowed that basic human right.

“I want to give a different perspective to people who have confined us to a box according to our assigned gender and race. “

Forging Ahead:

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So in the continuity of this blog, I would like to document those experiences of women. Especially, women of color who are forging in directions that aren’t traditionally ours to be had. I want to give a different perspective to people who have confined us to a box according to our assigned gender and race. We will continue to be all of the sexy millennial fun of man crush Monday, and we will mix it with the radical faces of women who refuse to be labeled.

“I will work hard to stay true to the new vision and direction we’re headed”

Hey You, Yes You. We’re Looking for you!

We are still looking for contributors that share our vision and that can offer a view into giphy (72)the world of women doing things differently. We also want people who can tell their personal experiences and stories of breaking free or living alternatively. I’m excited to share this new direction with you, and I’m thrilled to share a safe space for women of color to be who they are.  As always, thank you for supporting the blog on WordPress and Social Media. I will work hard to stay true to the new vision and direction we’re headed. I love you Playlisters, Besos!

MCM: The Kissing Booth’s Jacob Elordi aka Google, How old is Jacob Elordi?

Guess what day it isssssss???? It’s everyone’s favorite Man Crush Monday and boy do I Screenshot_20180609-235024have a Man Crush for you. I’ll give you a hint, you guys practically shut down google looking him up. Break the Internet anyone? Yeah, your searches went from anything like How old is Jacob Elordi to How tall is Jacob Elordi with Does Jacob Elordi have a girlfriend somewhere nestled in between. He play’s the very hunky Noah Flynn boyfriend to Shelly Evans on the Netflix hit, The Kissing Booth and in real life, he is the Boyfriend to the beautiful Joey King. Be jealous.

Jacob Elordi is one of the stars of Netflix most-watched Screenshot_20180609-235309original American teen romantic comedy alongside the very talented Joey King who you may remember from movies like Wish Upon and Crazy, Stupid, Love. I swear I wasn’t alone when I saw how tall he was in the movie (6’3) and of Legal age ( 1997, thank God…amiright??). In fact, I knew I wasn’t because I got on facebook later and saw a crap ton of statuses dedicated to, The Kissing Booth and Jacob Elordi simultaneously with the same questions. It made my heart pitter patter to know that my sisterens were so connected with my train of thought. We are of one mind (sort of).  I think I was just happy to know that if I ever ran into Jacob Elordi in real life and he was single (and I wouldn’t get arrested for trying to lick his abs…jk, jk lol) that my possible boyfriend would be taller than me. That’s (one of) the only thing/s a girl could ask for. Jacob Elordi, I would like to climb you like a tree (again j/k. j/k haha) and also I have a crush on you.

As always, thank you for supporting My Infinite Playlist. Check out more photos of Jacob below. Please don’t forget to comment, follow, subscribe and like us on Word Press and Social Media. I really love you guys to pieces. Besos!

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MCM: Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why & Riverdale’s Ross Butler

Screenshot_20180522-003230It’s your favorite day of the week, Man Crush Monday, and I could feel your anticipation from miles away. I’m late on it, I know, but I’ve been watching Netflix and I thought that this guy deserved a shout out. Netflix has been a heck of an inspiration in the past. So, I let it inspire me yet again. I was watching the second season of 13 Reason’s Why and I forgot about this handsomely tall specimen that graced my screen. His name is Ross Butler, and he’s a cutie patootie.

According to the limited information I could research onScreenshot_20180522-003248 the net, he is an American who was born in Singapore. His mom is Malaysian-Chinese and his British-Dutch. I do remember seeing him on the recently ended KC Undercover (that I was watching with my niece, but who am I kidding…I watch Disney by myself lol). He’s reportedly 28(thank God). So, I didn’t have to feel bad about being a little attracted to him. Because you know its weird at first. You know they’re attractive but you have to google their age to make sure you can finish your thought and say it out loud. You can’t creep on a 16-year-old, it’s gross. Anywho, I look forward to seeing more of him in person because he’s hott. Hey Ross Butler, I have a crush on you!

As always thank you for supporting the blog. Don’t forget to Like, Comment, Follow and Share on WordPress and Social Media.  Also,  I’m interested in guest bloggers being featured on this site to cover International Pop culture,  Dating& Relationships, Man Crush Monday, Social Issues, Alternative culture. The feel of the site is fun and upbeat and definitely out of the box. Feel free to contact me with suggestions on how we can work together. Pitch the idea and we’ll see how we can make it a good idea for this site. I also guest blog. So, feel free to contact me about that as well. Have the bestest week there ever was. Besos!

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Love a Muslim Day: Zayn Malik

you are perfect zayn malik GIF-source.gifI wanted to make this post because I see a lot of Islamophobia on the internet.  This blog is about love first, and I wanted our Muslim readers to know that we love you. There are good people who wish to live in peace with you and make the world a better place. You deserve to walk the streets of anywhere without being harassed or seeing hateful things like “punish a Muslim”.  That kind of thinking separates us rather than bring us together.  I wanted to show my appreciation toward you guys especially for one of your very handsome contributions to the Entertainment industry. He is definitely, My Infinite Playlist Certified.

happen zayn malik GIF-source.gifSo, In honor of Love a Muslim Day on social media, I would love to send all of the love from My Infinite Playlist to Zayn Malik. He deserves all of the affection today because his face and his music bring us all together. Mainly to talk about how hott he is, but the guy is seriously talented. I’m sure his hit song, Pillowtalk, has helped to make several babies by now. The kids won’t be able to thank you for another 18 years, but on their behalf, I’ll like to show my gratitude with this post.  I would also like to thank your parents for producing such a stud of a human being. It was the work of pure genius.

 

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